Everyone Needs A Sam – Chapter Six Excerpt

Jun 22, 2010 by

Today we look at Chapter 6 of my new book, “Everyone Needs A Sam.”

Sams are advisers, they are mentors.  They are the ones you can always call on when you are facing those life demons.

Chapter 6 is entitled, “A Sam Will Stand By You When Everyone Else Has Deserted.”

To learn more about Sams and how you can participate, please visit the web site here.

Excerpts follow the jump: 

A person who helps hide your affair, joins in on the backstabbing or closes the bar down with you in commiseration is not a Sam. Those types are not true friends either. They are trouble, and probably part of
the reason why you are where you are.

If you are repentant, if you make every effort to fix what you broke, you’ll find a Sam. They might end up visiting you in prison, but at least they are there.

But you are going to have to take the first step, and the second and probably a third. It takes time. It takes courage.

But sometimes it’s not your fault. Your company downsizes or is sold, you lose your job. Your entire retirement fund disappears overnight. I believe some of the quickest ways to see desertion is through the loss
of money or position.

Shallow people gravitate to money and to power. And when it’s gone, they’re gone.

Sams are going to stay around, because they aren’t about your money or your title or how you can — or could before the disaster — help them. They are about you. They understand “We all come to the end
of our lives as naked and empty-handed as on the day we were born. We can’t take our riches with us.” (Ecclesiastes 5:15). A similar passage in the New Testament states: “After all, we brought nothing with us when we came into the world, and we can’t take anything with us when we leave it.” (I Timothy 6:7)

You are more than your money or title or anything the world thinks is important. A Sam gets that. Proverbs 17:17 defines a true Sam: “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.”