Everyone Needs A Sam – Chapter Eight Excerpt

Jul 2, 2010 by

Waiting for the first copies of your new book is like waiting for the baby to come.  They, and the book, appear when they are ready.

As they say, “any day now,” and that won’t be too soon.  But we’re moving forward and today is another excerpt from Everyone Needs A Sam.

Chapter Eight is entitled “A Sam Is A Guide, Not A Leader.”  You can learn more about Sams – those mentors in our lives – by visiting the web site here.

Following is the excerpt:  

There is a subtle difference between the words “lead” and “guide.”

A leader, by definition, is one “who leads or guides,” while a guide is one “who shows the way by leading, directing, or advising.” In a real sense, a leader is one who is in charge; a guide is one who lights the path, showing the way.

Sams are guides. They can lead in the sense of guiding, but they should never lead as in being in command of your life. You are ultimately in control of your own destiny. You are ultimately responsible for your decisions and your actions.

If you rely on another individual to make your decisions you are essentially empowering that person to take over. Your life is no longer your own. You are making that person your crutch.

A Sam is not a crutch.

Let’s face it, there are times we’d like to just give up and have someone else make our decisions. We’ve hit our wall. Potential employers aren’t returning phone calls; you got turned down for that job you thought was yours; you’ve got the mortgage payment coming up; your health insurance is running out.

You are facing all of the above and much more. I’ve faced all that and more.